We met on a social network but had a happenstance meeting at a local event. He was attractive and intelligent and though he seemed to not be on the same level (as far as relationships) and had a problem with my abstaining from sex, we both agreed to be open and see how things goes.
Now -- He's a little judgmental, a bit of a drinker, an avid weed smoker, gambler, a bit touchy-feely and is actively sexing two women -- but agreed to respect me and my decision to do none of those things. Finally thought after a few bumps in communication we'd finally leveled off.
Then this morning I get a text that says:
"You're a cool gal, u just might be a tad bit of a prude. I don't think that works for me."
This came just a few hours after I rejected his invitation to "come by" (at nearly 1 am). Now, I may be abstinent, but I'm not naive ... C'mon son. I'm not just "coming by" after midnight. But aside from that, I'm not going to someone's house that I've only been around once and barely know ... in the middle of the night! Mama didn't raise no fool!
I have a rule. I don't visit or allow visitors after 10 pm (the only exception EVER made was for men who worked swing shift, 2-11). This is not the case with him. He gets off well before the sun sets and has made no attempt to visit or hang out in private or public. I'd even asked him for this indecent proposal about when our first date would be and I was told that he'd let me know. So I have to wait for a date but I can make late-night visits and it should be okay? No sir. Not ya girl.
Those that REALLY know me, know that I'm FAR from prude. But seriously, is that what men think now? A woman being careful and selective is equal to being prudish? When did having standards become a detriment to dating?
SMH. Needless to say when I asked him to elaborate on his labeling me prude, he didn't have an immediate response. If/when he does, I'll let you know.
